It's time to heal.

It can be very overwhelming to know where to start when you’re not feeling good. Here are some tips to wearing your heart on your sleeve and telling someone you're not ok.

Learn How

Here’s 3 steps to get you started.

  • Step 1

    Find 1 person

    • Find someone who you can trust who can listen non-judgementally. It could be a friend, psychologist, work colleague etc.
    • Not everyone will get it, and that’s ok!
    • Don’t expect everything to be solved straight away.
    • In fact, it might take a few people before you feel heard. That’s ok too!
  • Step 2

    Focus on 1 main issue

    • Concentrate on what is bothering you the most. There may be a few. What is the #1 thing right now?
    • Tell the facts, but make sure you tell the feelings too. Don’t neglect them.
    • State why this is important to you (i.e. why it is affecting you so much)
    • Healing may be painful, but it doesn’t mean something is going wrong. So long as you feel supported and you don’t go beyond your “edge”
  • Step 3

    Flag 1 helpful idea

    • Clarify what you want them to do - are you sharing just to get it off your chest, or because you want advice/suggestions?
    • Bring a possible solution of how that person could help (or tell them you just want them to listen)
  • Step 1

    Find 1 person

  • Step 2

    Focus on 1 main issue

  • Step 3

    Flag 1 helpful idea


5 sentence stems to help you find your words and keep it real.

Download our conversation starter journal.
  • 1 Share your facts
    What’s happening?
    “The situation for me is…”
  • 2 Share your feelings
    How it’s impacted you?
    “It has made me feel...”
  • 3 Share your meaning
    Why it’s affecting you?
    “The hardest part about all this for me is...”
  • 4 Share your coping
    What are you doing to manage?
    “Things that have helped are...”
  • 5 Ask for help
    What has worked for others?
    “Can you support me with… ?”

4 things to remind yourself before, during & after every conversation.

  • It’s ok if you feel awkward

  • You’re not alone

  • You’re problem isn’t too small

  • Be patient & committed

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